Saturday, 26 January 2013

Anger Can Leave Scars But Not/ Rarely Brings about Changes



 Try triggering the anger of some and what you may get is a reminiscent of each and every problem they had dealt with you. No likes to be reminded of their past mistakes. Such people are those termed by Eckhart Tolle (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eckhart_Tolle) as 'Pain Bodies'. These people, in simple words, are able to accept a sorry but they can never forget anything that has hurt them what more the people that caused it.





These people termed as 'Pain Bodies' at many times are prone to merely unleashing their anger rather than reasoning out on an argument. They prefer to welcome back past memories that had burdened them as a way of excusing themselves from having to deal with the problem. 

Why this is not good? Well, first of all, anger is not good. Next, we must be able to learn from the past and move on to fully live in the present moment. It is not only of the well being of ourselves that we have to care for ourselves but also for those who are living in our surrounding.






Anger can leave scars but it is only with love that one can bring about the changes he/she desires. What can we gain by throwing out words or raising our voice to state our feelings? Regardless of how hurt we are, anger must be managed well. 


It is not to say that anger must never be seen 100% from ourselves because we have to have reached much enlightenment in order to be anger-free. However, the level of anger that we portray must be controlled as to clearly indicate how terrible a problem or a person is.  


We must pull ourselves to remember at all times that when we are facing a problem, we must try focus at the content of the problem. Sometimes we may have to accept things the way certain things is meant to be and sometimes we can fix it for the better. There is only these two options and anger should not be a part of these options.


 

Wednesday, 23 January 2013

Guiding One to Reach the Shore Safely : The Act of Forgiving and Persistently Guiding

PERSISTENTLY guide the ones you care for to 'reach the shore safely'. 'Reach the shore safely' is a figure of speech to describe the journey of our lives. Live tends to be somewhat like traveling on an ocean where it has it's ups and downs.



One may commit a wrong act consciously or unconsciously. For example, a teenage boy who comes from a good family background commits theft. As soon as his parents find out this, his father hits him and throws words of disgrace towards him. Then, he is driven from home as his father does not want him in the family. Now this boy here committed the theft at his school because he decided that was the only way he could get enough cash to go to a concert with his friends. 



What we can observe from this given scenario is that the boy consciously committed the theft as he may have not wanted to feel left out knowing that his group of friends were going to a concert. In this case, peer pressure can lead a youngster to consider going beyond his means at times. 

On, the other hand, the father came to know of this and obviously pointed out his anger towards such behavior instantly and whats worse, he also disregards the boy as his son. Here is where I talk about persistence.

No individual are born bad or evil. When one is known to committed a wrong, provide them with love and care that indicates to them a sign of hope and confidence you still have towards them. You are willing to give them another chance to sort things out and lead a decent life. You may be surprised with the outcomes. 

When people make a mistake or commit a wrong act and it has come into realization of the people in their surrounding, there definitely is, at least, a slight chance for them to mend their ways if there are people to guide them well. Why leave them to rot just like that when it is a command of God that we must help mankind in the form of service? If there is no sin that can never be forgiven by God, then how is it that we, mere human beings, find it hard to forgive.

Parasara Bhattar, a follower of Ramanujacharya had said that Vishnu Sahasranama (Highly Sacred Stotra in Hinduism) absolves people of all sins...
It was also mentioned in the Lalitha Sahasranama (Highly Sacred Stotra in Hinduism) that there is no sins that cannot be forgiven by God...



Bring yourself to forgive the ones who have hurt you. Forgiveness actually heals your wounds naturally. TALK to them. Let them know to what extend their act has hurt you. Let them know that you still have hopes in them for the better. Give them the opportunity to know that they are valued high because everyone is a child of God and having them gone in the wrong ways is a loss to you as you love them. 



It may seem absurd for some who are not very expressive to sit and talk with people like this. But in my opinion, nothing can be absurd when it comes to love.Only with the power of love can you see the vitality to persistently guide your loved ones. Never give up on your loved ones.

When people become aware of your love and care, there are chances that they will give a try to do their best in making your hopes towards them come true. 
 


Tuesday, 15 January 2013

Among the Few Types of People We May Come Across in the Journey of Live

          
Life is a long journey. It is a journey that comprises every little steps we take to live our lives.




It is a journey that is full of lessons to be learned where we have 'teachers' stepping in on and off to guide us on the art of living be it consciously or unconsciously. 

Then, there are also the critics who may criticize out of concern or those who merely do so out of pride, ego and merely wanting to find faults. The latter are usually those who are negative in thoughts.

Lo and behold, we may also come across those who prefer to move about not noticing much of the happenings around them unless it involves them or interests them. These are the one who are too busy living in a world of their own.

Furthermore, in this current era where morality is on a constant decrease, we still come across those who live to carry out services in order to help mankind. In simple words, these are the people who are committed to social services. These people usually life a live in the form of a circle where the love and help they provide others with comes back to them in the form of 'bonds'.



As we proceed living as human beings we will have to fight against strong currents of negative influences, bad karma *deed/acts*, Maya and many more. There are those who may give up along way thus giving up on living. 

Besides that, many these days allow themselves to get carried away with in the world of Maya. Fashion, entertainments, brands are among the aspects of Maya that they fall for rather than focusing on self realization, equipping themselves on religious knowledge as well as values like forgiveness, respect, humbleness and modesty.



We know under which type of people we stand in. We have to make sure we are on the right tract because I believe that we have been placed on Earth to mold ourselves into faithful souls who are devoted to God. 

Divine services should be part of our living whether it is a small offering or a big charity. Hence, as we proceed along life's journey, we can overcome our bad karma while gaining good karma in the hope that we shall unite with the Supreme Soul/God.